If you have ever said…

“I don’t recognize myself” or “I don’t feel like myself anymore.”

I thought my friends and family would be there for me but they disappeared.”

They said I was “too much” and my grief went on for too long.”

“I’m sick of people telling me what to do,” and “I just want my life back.” 

Fed Up With Feeling Alone?

The most damaging effect of grief is feeling disconnected from everything.

During this grief crisis, with so many losses, it’s impossible to “just bounce back.”

Reconnecting is a choice. It can offer you a purposeful and joyful life.

So where do you start?

Register for upcoming FREE 90-minute workshop: RECONNECT

August 25, 2022 from 11 am – 12:30 pm EST 

Every grief journey is personal. There is no ‘right’ way to grieve, only the best way for you. You can make it alone but it’s much easier with help from someone who knows the way, like me.


Choose your best way to be supported as you move forward through grief and take back your life:


1) customized yearly 1-on-1 grief resilience coaching (5 clients only), starts at $9000


2) Subscribe to Heartbreak to Hope Haven monthly membership, includes recorded actionable lessons 4x/mo, Q&A and group coaching – join for as long as you wish, leave when you are ready


3) free resources like the monthly RECONNECT Workshop, guest podcasts and more

What readers say…

I’ve never met the author, Alison Pena, but her late husband David, of blessed memory, was my student when he was 10 years old, the last time I saw him. I was bowled over by this incredible book. I’m the typical I’ll-do-it-myself guy who doesn’t turn to books (or people) for guidance. This is different. It’s the perfect mix of profound caring and love and grieving, plus a clear vision about how to survive and live in the real world.

Ms. Pena confronts the most terrible loss with her whole being. She embraces reality and fully acknowledges the catastrophe of David’s death. She learns how to mourn, how to grow, never to “move on,” and yet to continue living a life of meaning. As a rabbi, I can say that I’ve never seen anyone straddle the poles of engaging in the present, looking to the future, and cherishing the past. Not only does she (mostly) succeed in being in those three places at once, but she is able to guide us clearly and compassionately in our own journeys.

This is a book for those who are mourning, and for those who know that someday they, too, will be mourning. This is inspiration that will stay with you throughout your life.

J. Gordon

I am single and have never been married. But over the past 9 years, I have experienced deep, heartbreaking losses that I did not properly grieve for and which have been affecting my life. Alison’s book reads like a memoir, but it helped make sense of what I have been going through. Even more, the steps she outlines at the end of each chapter gave a clearer picture of what I needed to do, and confirmed some of the steps that I intuitively thought I needed to take, to move forward. Some family members and friends had either discouraged me or they just didn’t know what to say.


Reading Alison Pena’s no-holds-barred description of the process of grieving/grief was a breath of fresh air. Although I have not lost my spouse, I identified with so much of her experience – especially around the expectations of others about how I should handle devastating events. The book is an extraordinary and honest guide through the human experience of grieving. Beautifully designed with helpful prompts and questions, it welcomes the reader to set their own path through their own experience. A must read.

C. Moed

What Clients Say

Alison Pena has made an immeasurable impact on my life and career. Her insights and guidance have been instrumental in, not just coping, but thriving through personal, social and business challenges. Discussions of my interests and goals have enabled me to establish credibility within the business, technical and academic communities and have been requested to return to lecture and lead seminars at several universities.

Personally, I have grown from a “private person”, developing fresh relationships with family and friends to a degree I did not think possible as well as creating a vibrant professional network. Her support has also provided the context to effectively manage my personal finances and selfcare during this particularly stressful time. I have found her wisdom and on-going support invaluable.

George B

I first met you on a sidewalk in NYC and your calm and comedic manner struck me instantly – you radiate that you’re at ease in your skin and it makes it so easy to be around you. I found myself wondering “what’s she got going on? I want some of that in my life!”  The next time I saw you was on stage – a presentation that made me cry because it resonated so deeply!

Our work together changed my life. I mean that, sincerely. Because of your commitment to sharing your knowledge and showing up, I have personally seen a transformation in how I care for myself, connect to others, and set (and ACHIEVE) insanely amazing goals that I never dreamed possible. To me, you are a brilliant.

And now, in seeing the way you are navigating David’s death, you are again showing me what it means to be true to yourself. True to your need and desire to connect, even in the depths of pain and loss. True to caring for yourself in the best way possible and reaching out and asking for what you need. I’m just in awe of how you continue to teach by example and how much I continue to learn from you. Thank you for sharing your brilliance and wisdom, your courage and vulnerability. 

Marina D.

Alison is an incredible coach who helped me to see that I could shift the lens that I was looking at my life through. I brag we ended with one clear action step that feels really good and juicy to me! I brag that I can see now that it doesn’t have to always be so damn hard in the area of relationships! 

Rose K

I had the opportunity to do a business strategy session with Alison Pena, and it was incredibly beneficial.  Alison was able to ask the right questions and zero in on a block I was having to marketing to a particular group – a group where the deals are big and the stakes are high. Through a very innovative exercise, Alison helped me get to the root of the block and since then, the block has been gone. 

Alison also helped me hone in on the type of client I would be best aligned with.  She helped me see possibilities in a given target group that I never realized existed before.  Alison has a very sharp, strategic mind, yet what makes her unusual is her ability to integrate her keen business strategy with her personal development work, which helps you get to the root of the issue so you can truly make a seismic shift.  It was a gift to work with Alison, and I highly recommend her.

Michelle L

The Affluence Code coaching call with Alison Pena was amazing and rocked my resistance! I realize how I have tied up my struggle in life with how I look. Vulnerability: I have a belief that if I looked like Naomi Campbell I would act like her as well. So instead of being a stunning ebony goddess, I look like me.

Haven’t we all seen the report about how more attractive people make more money? So, boom! Obviously with my looks of course I wouldn’t be able to reach the upper echelons. I got that I really need to own my beauty or I will be forever trapped.

Mary S

What Hosts and Audience Members Say

Alison crushed it on EOFire!! Just had an incredible chat. What an inspiring Entrepreneur! Look out for her.

John Lee Dumas

Beautiful message presented clear and positive, extremely thought provoking. Love the idea of learning what type of personality I am and how I can move forward. Thank you for your message of hope.

Julie F

Passionate, very articulate and inspiring. Alison shares a great message for those struggling with figuring out who they really are and what their value is.

Tracy O