Welcome To Bad Widow

Welcome to the Bad Widow website, your home for airing messy feelings, having bold conversations, selflessly prioritizing your own self-care and tackling painful, practical challenges you never imagined having to cope with. Prepare for irreverent humor, uncomfortable conversations and raw truth. Just remember, no matter what your circumstances, you are not broken. The only way out is through. I can show you the way.

As human beings, we ALL know loss intimately. Whether you lost a loved one, got a divorce or lost your business, career, health, money or home, loss is loss. Any transitional event is a loss. It’s the death of a future imagined or co-created which will never come to pass.

After my husband, David, died of pancreatic cancer in my arms in 2016, I was a widow, swamped in grief, afraid of my future alone, angry at my dead husband and barely able to function. To take back my life, I had to remember that, despite my loss, I was still whole, a resilient and resourceful person. Tapping into my internal fortitude enabled me to make better choices and take more effective action from that moment on.

I invite you to remember who you are at heart, no matter what your circumstances. It’s your turn to choose.

 

“Alison is able to take complex matters and break them down into tasty nuggets. Our work together has helped me achieve many of my professional and personal goals…”

JD S.

Are you ready to reclaim your capacity to be resilient and resourceful again?

“Alison Pena has made an immeasurable impact on my life and career. Her insights and guidance have been instrumental in, not just coping, but thriving through personal, social and business challenges…”

George B.

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* Recover from emotional and physical effects faster
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Bad Widow Blog
Redefining Loss in a New, More Powerful Way

Redefining Loss in a New, More Powerful Way

When we experience a loss, whether it’s the loss of a person to death, disease, divorce or breakup, the loss of a job or business to downsizing or an economic downturn, or the loss of a place to a move or foreclosure, it is not usually by choice. We have little...

Getting back to living fully after losing my husband

Getting back to living fully after losing my husband

Read my Bad Widow post below or Click the link to the Thrive Global article Clarity was the key to restoring myself back to wholeness and resourcefulness, at my own pace. Grieving my husband, David, over the last 2 1/2 years has required seeking clarity on many...

When Dealing with Stuff After Death Is Overwhelming

When Dealing with Stuff After Death Is Overwhelming

Dealing with stuff after the death of a loved one is overwhelming - all the hopes and dreams of a life together, all the decisions you will now make alone, in the midst of your grieving, seem impossible. David left his 500 square foot studio filled with easels, art...

Heartbreak and Hope – a poem about South Africa

Heartbreak and Hope – a poem about South Africa

Heartbreak and Hope South Africa has a beat to it, under my feet like a heart. Energy healing in KwaZulu Natal, land of the Zulus, never conquered Rutted roads, few cars, tramp of children’s feet running to school, Concrete floors, rug mats, naps side-by-side, coughs...

Sweet 16 Revelation – a poem about awakening to truth

Sweet 16 Revelation – a poem about awakening to truth

Sweet 16 Revelation Like ten kernels of corn, amongst 300, We huddled together at Jeff’s sweet 16 party Shocked, isolated, in the minority Skin glowing white under strobe party lights Music pounded, bass insistently calling Come to the dance floor NOW! Unfamiliar as...

The Day My Heart Broke – a poem about cancer

The Day My Heart Broke – a poem about cancer

The Day My Heart Broke October 12, 2015, CT results in pancreatic cancer, Stage 4, terminal prepare to die, estimated lifespan now measured in weeks, unexpectedly “I do” and “till death do us part” now with unanticipated meaning more than words, now deeds to choose or...

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