3 Secrets to Asking Like a Ninja

3 Secrets to Asking Like a Ninja

3 Ninja Secrets to Ask For and Get More Yeses How you ask determines whether or not the answer to your request will be 'Yes'. Asking like a ninja can be scary because it requires not settling for less than everything you truly want. It's an 'all-in' inside game with...

Pivot vs. Hot Mess: The Time Value of Decisions

Pivot vs. Hot Mess: The Time Value of Decisions

Learning how to make decisions quickly and effectively, after researching the options, is essential to thriving in all areas of our lives. Why does speed matter? And why is speedy decision making even more important after a loss?The question comes down to...

Taking Up Space Again After a Loss or Transition

Taking Up Space Again After a Loss or Transition

David Beynon Pena, my husband, was a professional artist, who sold his first painting at the age of 11. When we went to Maine, to Leadbetter Island or North Haven, David would paint from early morning into the night, 3 to 4 paintings a day, so after 10 days, we came...

Going It Alone Only Works for Cowboys

Going It Alone Only Works for Cowboys

Social distancing did not seem like such a hardship in the beginning. As an introvert, I welcomed having a chance to pause and take a breath, plan, create and dream. My energy for reaching out to potential new consulting clients flagged after my husband,...

Time Is a Slippery Beast

Time Is a Slippery Beast

After my husband, David Beynon Pena, died of pancreatic cancer in 2016, my experience of time became very fluid. I had little energy so I was not going out very much, connecting with fewer people and doing less activities. My life felt like an endless...

What advice would you give your younger self?

What advice would you give your younger self?

This week's Thrive Global prompt was about, if you could go back in time, what life lessons would you share with your younger self so they don't make the same mistakes? The story is called Potential is the Booby Prize because it's always in the future and...

You Are a Hero Too

You Are a Hero Too

Richard Matthews' podcast, The Hero Show, frames entrepreneurial people as superheroes too. Our interview was around my experience as Bad Widow and the resilience required to come back from feeling broken to thriving again in work, love and my life. I share some of...

Redefining Loss in a New, More Powerful Way

Redefining Loss in a New, More Powerful Way

When we experience a loss, whether it’s the loss of a person to death, disease, divorce or breakup, the loss of a job or business to downsizing or an economic downturn, or the loss of a place to a move or foreclosure, it is not usually by choice. We have little...