Going It Alone Only Works for Cowboys

Going It Alone Only Works for Cowboys

Social distancing did not seem like such a hardship in the beginning. As an introvert, I welcomed having a chance to pause and take a breath, plan, create and dream. My energy for reaching out to potential new consulting clients flagged after my husband,...

Time Is a Slippery Beast

Time Is a Slippery Beast

After my husband, David Beynon Pena, died of pancreatic cancer in 2016, my experience of time became very fluid. I had little energy so I was not going out very much, connecting with fewer people and doing less activities. My life felt like an endless...

What advice would you give your younger self?

What advice would you give your younger self?

This week's Thrive Global prompt was about, if you could go back in time, what life lessons would you share with your younger self so they don't make the same mistakes? The story is called Potential is the Booby Prize because it's always in the future and...

You Are a Hero Too

You Are a Hero Too

Richard Matthews' podcast, The Hero Show, frames entrepreneurial people as superheroes too. Our interview was around my experience as Bad Widow and the resilience required to come back from feeling broken to thriving again in work, love and my life. I share some of...

Redefining Loss in a New, More Powerful Way

Redefining Loss in a New, More Powerful Way

When we experience a loss, whether it’s the loss of a person to death, disease, divorce or breakup, the loss of a job or business to downsizing or an economic downturn, or the loss of a place to a move or foreclosure, it is not usually by choice. We have little...

Getting back to living fully after losing my husband

Getting back to living fully after losing my husband

Read my Bad Widow post below or Click the link to the Thrive Global article Clarity was the key to restoring myself back to wholeness and resourcefulness, at my own pace. Grieving my husband, David, over the last 2 1/2 years has required seeking clarity on many...

When Dealing with Stuff After Death Is Overwhelming

When Dealing with Stuff After Death Is Overwhelming

Dealing with stuff after the death of a loved one is overwhelming - all the hopes and dreams of a life together, all the decisions you will now make alone, in the midst of your grieving, seem impossible. David left his 500 square foot studio filled with easels, art...

Heartbreak and Hope – a poem about South Africa

Heartbreak and Hope – a poem about South Africa

Heartbreak and Hope South Africa has a beat to it, under my feet like a heart. Energy healing in KwaZulu Natal, land of the Zulus, never conquered Rutted roads, few cars, tramp of children’s feet running to school, Concrete floors, rug mats, naps side-by-side, coughs...

Getting back to living fully after losing my husband

Sweet 16 Revelation – a poem about awakening to truth

Sweet 16 Revelation Like ten kernels of corn, amongst 300, We huddled together at Jeff’s sweet 16 party Shocked, isolated, in the minority Skin glowing white under strobe party lights Music pounded, bass insistently calling Come to the dance floor NOW! Unfamiliar as...

The Day My Heart Broke – a poem about cancer

The Day My Heart Broke – a poem about cancer

The Day My Heart Broke October 12, 2015, CT results in pancreatic cancer, Stage 4, terminal prepare to die, estimated lifespan now measured in weeks, unexpectedly “I do” and “till death do us part” now with unanticipated meaning more than words, now deeds to choose or...