Transform Grief into a Life of Purpose and Joy
Grief and inheriting money is complicated, expanding possibilities, dividing families.
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ARE YOU IN THE RIGHT PLACE?
You are carrying more than anyone knows.
The heartbreaking grief. The financial decisions of inherited wealth that are personal. The weight of it all on your shoulders.
There is no right way to do this. And you were never meant to figure it out alone.
This is a place where every experience is welcome. And where someone who understands every part of what you are carrying because she's lived it will walk beside you.
Welcome to BadWidow.com. I'm Alison Pena.
As a widow, Alison Pena has walked this path. She knows what it feels like to lose everything and face a world she was not prepared for. Through the loss of her husband when life fell apart, she knows that world intimately from inside. Through the loss of her father, a well-known wealth advisor whose life's work shaped her understanding of money, legacy and the families left behind to carry on.
She built a way through that holds both your grief and your future at the same time.
WORK WITH ME
Grief is so disorienting that people sometimes think they're doing it wrong. The good news is you can't. But it's very hard to go through it on your own.
Every person's grief journey is different. There is no right or wrong way to grieve. However you are grieving is the right way for you. Grief is not linear but I can show you how to move forward with compassion, clarity and specific customized action steps to handle any problem.
NEXT STEP:
Get your Grief Guide to find out what you can expect during the first 24 months of your grief journey, along with tips to address common issues you may be facing, plus ways to access 1-on-1 support.
PROBLEM: BEING LONELY
People you counted on disappeared.
Grief can be lonely. You may not have energy for people and those uncomfortable with your grief or their own mortality might leave.
With coaching, you will get clear about where the gaps in your existing network are and how to find old and new relationships who accept and support you, exactly as you are.
PROBLEM: HOLDING BOUNDARIES
People give you unsolicited advice.
Boundary jumping is a common issue. Family and friends insist you 'must' take a specific action, thinking they know best, trying to help you in their own way.
With coaching, you will identify your spoken and unspoken boundaries, decide what you want to do about those that were breached and how to communicate about and enforce them for healthier relationships.
PROBLEM: LOST YOUR PURPOSE
Loss breaks our trust in ourselves.
For most people, our identity is connected to who we are in relationships, at work, our health or age, our finances and our legacy or purpose, what we are here
to do.
With coaching, you will discover how to ground yourself in who you are so that you recover more quickly from grief, including the death of a loved one, and reclaim your purpose, resilience and resourcefulness.
WHAT CLIENTS AND READERS SAY
"Ms. Pena confronts the most terrible loss with her whole being. She embraces reality and fully acknowledges the catastrophe of David’s death. She learns how to mourn, how to grow, never to “move on,” and yet to continue living a life of meaning.
As a rabbi, I can say that I’ve never seen anyone straddle the poles of engaging in the present, looking to the future, and cherishing the past. Not only does she (mostly) succeed in being in those three places at once, but she is able to guide us clearly and compassionately in our own journeys."
Yosi G.
Rabbi
"Her insights and guidance have been instrumental in, not just coping, but thriving through personal, social and business challenges.
Personally, I have grown from a “private person”, developing fresh relationships with family and friends to a degree I did not think possible as well as creating a vibrant professional network. Her support has also provided the context to effectively manage my personal finances and self-care during this particularly stressful time. I found her wisdom and on-going support invaluable."
George B.
Bank Operations
"I first met you on a sidewalk in NYC and found myself wondering, “What’s she got going on? I want some of that in my life!” The next time I saw you was on stage – a presentation that made me cry because it resonated so deeply!
Our work together changed my life. I mean that, sincerely. Because of your commitment to sharing your knowledge and showing up, I have personally seen a transformation in how I care for myself, connect to others, and set (and ACHIEVE) insanely amazing goals that I never dreamed possible."
Marina D.
Healthcare IT
"Reading Alison Pena’s no-holds-barred description of the process of grieving/grief was a breath of fresh air. Although I have not lost my spouse, I identified with so much of her experience – especially around the expectations of others about how I should handle devastating events.
The book is an extraordinary and honest guide through the human experience of grieving. Beautifully designed with helpful prompts and questions, it welcomes the reader to set their own path through their own experience. A must read."
Claire M.
Retired Editor
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