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Welcome to the Bad Widow website, your home for airing messy feelings, having bold conversations, selflessly prioritizing your own self-care and tackling painful, practical challenges you never imagined having to cope with. Prepare for irreverent humor, uncomfortable conversations and raw truth. Just remember, no matter what your circumstances, you are not broken. The only way out is through. I can show you the way.

As human beings, we ALL know loss intimately. Whether you lost a loved one, got a divorce or lost your business, career, health, money or home, loss is loss. Any transitional event is a loss. It’s the death of a future imagined or co-created which will never come to pass.

After my husband, David, died of pancreatic cancer in my arms in 2016, I was a widow, swamped in grief, afraid of my future alone, angry at my dead husband and barely able to function. To take back my life, I had to remember that, despite my loss, I was still whole, a resilient and resourceful person. Tapping into my internal fortitude enabled me to make better choices and take more effective action from that moment on.

I invite you to remember who you are at heart, no matter what your circumstances. It’s your turn to choose.

 

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Taking Up Space Again After a Loss or Transition

Taking Up Space Again After a Loss or Transition

David Beynon Pena, my husband, was a professional artist, who sold his first painting at the age of 11. When we went to Maine, to Leadbetter Island or North Haven, David would paint from early morning into the night, 3 to 4 paintings a day, so after 10 days, we came...

If You Are a Reluctant Caregiver During the Pandemic, Read On

If You Are a Reluctant Caregiver During the Pandemic, Read On

Last weekend, I wrote an article for Thrive Global about being a caregiver for my mother-in-law. I was also primary caregiver for my husband, David as he battled Stage 4 pancreatic cancer from October 2015 to September 2016. During this pandemic and social distancing...

Going It Alone Only Works for Cowboys

Going It Alone Only Works for Cowboys

Social distancing did not seem like such a hardship in the beginning. As an introvert, I welcomed having a chance to pause and take a breath, plan, create and dream. My energy for reaching out to potential new consulting clients flagged after my husband,...

Time Is a Slippery Beast

Time Is a Slippery Beast

After my husband, David Beynon Pena, died of pancreatic cancer in 2016, my experience of time became very fluid. I had little energy so I was not going out very much, connecting with fewer people and doing less activities. My life felt like an endless...

What advice would you give your younger self?

What advice would you give your younger self?

This week's Thrive Global prompt was about, if you could go back in time, what life lessons would you share with your younger self so they don't make the same mistakes? The story is called Potential is the Booby Prize because it's always in the future and...

You Are a Hero Too

You Are a Hero Too

Richard Matthews' podcast, The Hero Show, frames entrepreneurial people as superheroes too. Our interview was around my experience as Bad Widow and the resilience required to come back from feeling broken to thriving again in work, love and my life. I share some of...

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